Did you ever wonder why regardless of the field you’re in, people skills matter? Doctors, lawyers, bus drivers, us creative types, all need to develop and possess good people skills. It’s not easy and honestly what if you don’t like people? In reality, it’s impossible to like everyone. But we have to like enough or at least fake it, to be successful.
I’ve learned my people skills are the key to successful leadership. But how does one build those skills? Where do you start?
Look In the Mirror To Develop Your People Skills
Success in any endeavor comes from relationships. I want people to buy my art, so they need to get to know me. My skills with people is key. After all, I’m entering into a relationship as seller and buyer. I need you to trust me and to appreciate my work. Greta Scacchi said, “A relationship requires a lot of work and commitment.” No matter how short-lived the relationship, it takes work.
Leaders build relationships with their teams to be successful. Only your commitment to building your team will let you find that success. But of course, you don’t like everyone on your team. Too bad. Look in the mirror and ask yourself what you need to do to build a positive, successful relationship.
The truth in any leadership role is you need to work with all personalities and levels of ability. It’s not supposed to be easy. The words of Robert H. Schuller ring true when he said, “The truth of the matter is, you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” The hard part of leadership is invoking your people skills and building the relationships you really don’t want to build personally.
There is your challenge. Personally, you don’t want a relationship with this person. Professionally you do. How hard is it for all of us to separate the professional from the personal? The successful leaders do it. The mere managers, salespeople, and perennial rank-and-file employees struggle.
I’ll end with a great quote from Peter Drucker, “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
Stop yourself, do the right thing and look at who you are and work with the other or others to be successful.